If the fires of passion in your marriage have been reduced to almost smoldering coals, then you are not alone. One of the most common problems that can damage a marriage is the loss of spark… or spice, or whatever you want to call it. It really isn’t that easy to get you or your partner “in the mood” once you’ve become very familiar with each other. Of course, it’s wonderful to be familiar with your spouse because familiarity is the foundation of intimacy. But intimacy isn’t the same as passion, is it? Routine is to blame. If proper countermeasures are not deployed against routine’s assault on your relationship, then it will drain all the passion out of your marriage. Routine is a tenacious killer of passion…suspected in the death of more than 1 million passionate romances. I know that routine is very useful for showers and oil changes, but it has no place in the bedroom.

Fight it! Fight boredom and routine! It’s going to take some effort to reignite those flames, but armed with the right tactics, you’ll make it! Some of the ideas that I will mention may seem quite basic, and most of them are simple and easy. Just try them. You have already started to put in more effort by reading this article; Now don’t think about how nice it would be to do some of these things with your spouse…the only way for this to happen is for you to take action!

Have you ever noticed how a change of venue can be very exciting? That’s right…just being together in a place other than your bedroom can have an almost magical effect. Use this strange phenomenon to your advantage. Get yourself a nice hotel room on a Saturday night. First have dinner and then take a bath in the hotel pool. Be playful and flirtatious with your spouse. Don’t put any pressure on them; just be loving and playful through the night together and let things happen naturally. A hand on their thigh, a whisper in their ear, or a kiss on the neck are great for reminding your partner of what to expect. Now go upstairs to your room and let the strange surroundings take effect.

Try reading your spouse an erotic bedtime story. Let it be spontaneous. Don’t let them know it’s a sexy story before you start, maybe even disguise the book with a different cover. This can be an easy way to get your spouse to try something new. If you hear it in the story, then it might be your idea to give it a try. Most people of either gender find erotic stories very arousing.

Take a video camera to the bedroom. Be careful, but have fun. It’s actually the element of danger and the feeling of voyeurism that makes this exciting.

Buy a little sexy costume to surprise your partner. Ladies, men have always loved and always will love the sexy French Maid outfit. Men, never let your wives see you in a dirty pair of white pants.

Write notes to your spouse. Hide a romantic message in a briefcase or bag. In fact, it’s the small romantic gestures that help lay the foundation for building romance. Let your partner know what turns you on. They will be excited knowing that you are excited. Send flowers without any special occasion, just to delight the love of your life.

The key is to make a little effort. Changing things for emotion and making little romantic gestures. When your spouse sees you making an effort to regain the passion, he will do it along with you.