Tears at bedtime and not being able to sleep happily are a problem for many parents. A good routine and starting early helps, but the most important thing is to stay relaxed and expect success.

Exercise earlier in the day, especially outdoors, will be a good starting point, followed by quiet play before bed. A warm bath helps to relax children followed by a favorite story in a happy and relaxed way to help them relax happily. A favorite soft toy, teddy bear, or cozy blanket provide comfort and security when lying next to your now relaxed and sleepy little one, which should help them settle in for a good night’s sleep.

When my tribe was small, we had a simple bedtime routine. After walking home from school, quite a long walk for little legs, a drink and cookies were welcomed, then they had fun and enjoyed play time while dinner was being prepared. Help with preparation was reserved for weekends when more time was available. After the meal they were able to continue their games until bedtime. Although some were in school, they had not yet been assigned homework on a regular basis.

In the 1960s, The Magic Roundabout was the signal to go to bed. Shortly before, a reminder was given, “Who can pick up 10 things before their show?” A combined effort and a little help soon restored normalcy to the room and encouraged them to pick up their toys in a playful way. Toys away, it was time to sit and watch, followed by bath time, teeth, toilet, story, and bed.

There were no questions, there was no choice, that was how it was. When you have so many kids, maybe it’s easier to get results when the little ones follow each other, we all poured up to where they were all in a bubble bath. Start your routine early and it becomes expected.

Clean and relaxed, it was time for a story. They had walked about 2 miles home from school; well, all but the smallest (one in the stroller and one in it); with the elders trailing behind. We often played Spy I Spy to help out on the trip. So with all that fresh air and exercise, everyone was tired and ready for bed.

He did not allow or expect the children to come down at night, but staying in bed and going to sleep, this almost always happened. They didn’t get a chance to consider any other behavior and were probably too tired anyway.

Stay calm, firm and consistent and you will get the results you want and expect. Just because you’re firm about the behaviors you think are important doesn’t mean you’re not nice or don’t love them. Just remember praise for good behavior and have positive expectations. Set limits early on and adjust them if necessary as the child grows.

I hope these suggestions have started from an early age and give you peaceful nights and happy, relaxed children.