When we continue to accept behaviors and situations that are not in alignment with the path we have chosen for our life, we must ask ourselves why. The mere fact that we do not question is to consent to allow other people to control our behavior unconsciously.

Why do we keep doing this? Why do we continue to put excuses for bad behavior or for those who do not follow promises or commitments? If we are willing to ask the question, ‘why’ we advance by leaps and bounds of an illusion that does not work for us. We pass into the presence of reality. Instead of being incapacitated by the unknown, we can advance in our own planned life trip.

Think about the power of intermittent reinforcement in our emotional lives. This is what hooks gamers and addicts. It is what causes very intelligent people to remain in terrible relationships. If it was always bad, you would leave. It’s those intermittent ‘good times’, and the wins or highs for the addict, that keep us hooked and coming back for more. But you see how at the end the life of most of the players and addicts. It is the same with the people in our lives who are part of unhealthy relationships. The results are rarely worth the price of the trip. And, flashing is as good as it gets; enough to keep you coming back for more.

How much of this intermittent reward keeps us hooked on our delusions; forces us to return to the denial of the real situation? All this happens because, for a moment, things were better or good.

The good news is that when we wake up in the dream we call our life journey, we realize that we chose those poisonous situations to intensify our need to embrace higher values, a higher perception of how we need to see ourselves. Sometimes we create life situations that are guaranteed to crash us! A head-on collision, so we have no choice but to wake up and alter our course.

How powerful denial and deception can be when we avoid the great mirror! What is it that we are so afraid to confront in ourselves? What is that dread with which we wake up in the morning when something seems to be missing? What’s that?

It is likely that our good friends and colleagues, denial and deception are not yet awake and in control of our emotions. They act like a drug in themselves. We become addicted to them and their calming and calming effects.

It’s a lot like being addicted to a computer game. Your screen, or your life view, will reflect dramatic victories that you can even speak and enjoy; yet, when you turn off the computer, the game vanishes into thin air, a delusion. It was always in the virtual world; it will never appear to accept responsibility for the actions it permeates. These partners are the proverbial ‘Not Me’ in your life. You can’t find their miserable butts when it’s time to be held accountable for your actions. As in virtual games, only you can see the winnings.

If you are caught in the role of victim in the game of your life, where are you playing that role? At work, as a parent, in an intimate relationship? It is a strange fact that those who seem strong and intrepid at work cross the door of their home and Immodely assume the role of victim of abuse. Publicly they appear strong and in control; In private, they are emotionally or physically abused whether they are trapped in this pattern. How does that happen?

Human beings instinctively seek to survive and, at some level, live their dreams of life. If you are trapped in a network of deception and deception in a relationship, it is not uncommon for you to shine at work, or vice versa. This is the soul of the dreamer who seeks some method to express the joy he originally planned.
We are all born to win; Playing a victim is another expression of unhealthy boundaries we have embraced.

It also provides a way to become ‘not me’ when you can excuse the actions you have taken and the choices you have made by blaming someone else for stealing your choices. We are our own bandits and thieves on this stage.

Behold; The frontal collision delivering the results of its wrong actions and bad elections. If you are going to survive the trip in your life, something has to wake up so you can sail the trip successfully.

Imagine that you have chosen the destination and get into your car, fasten your seat belt, start the engine and then proceed to look in the rear view mirror to reach the desired destination. You are looking for the address in the mirror that provides the slightest love for valuable information, instead of choosing to look through the great expansive windshield that is in front of you. When you continue with the same method that got you to your current destination, it provides the same effect as navigating through the rearview mirror.

If you have a sense of dread about something, it’s time to honestly examine where the great sense of power that came together with what you fear most originated. What are you running from? What do you fear and why? How can you disarm this opponent? Can you make a different choice, choose a better path? Are you captive because you fear change? A sense of fear forces you to play the role of a victim, a powerless position to assume.

What are you most disappointed in your life? Have you identified the real problem that makes you so disappointed? Did you play apart in creating this issue? Are you willing to stop playing that role if you are part of it?

You can’t win this battle until you can be honest with yourself about what it is. Then examine how it became reality; Once you have done this, you will be in a position to go to battle and win is in your life.

We all have an addiction to something. If you are down the throat of one that is not healthy, change it to something that is good for you; Good for your path and your life journey. Then it stops being a part of continuing the old addiction.

These are simple words that require a deep commitment to change if you want to make a change honestly. You can’t ‘go to get along’ and imagine that things have changed.